My nephew just told me that he made a contract for 30 years with Roxy. That means its nearly over in the grand scheme of things but it still means we have a little while to comply with certain decorum issues that temporally supersede our deeper ties.
Its a respectable period of time and honors Roxy but those thirty years started when we were 12 so about the time we started being more deeply interested in each other and other people our age were getting together so it seemed pretty strange to me at least that nothing was happening along those lines.
Thats why Gramps started pointing out how hormones are a pain in the ass all the time.
Roxy hasn't been able to keep the honor part of things in mind for most of this experience and has thrown a bunch of tantrums that had to be appeased. This situation also meant that she wasn't available to us in any capacity too much of the time to make a priority of dealing with any missperceptions she was having about my situation. Including that she knew I had extra chromosomes but didn't know that I had been mainstreamed.
Gramps and Roxy both had argued that though 30 years is the most honorable duration that could have been offered, there were worries about my safety and career issues and so things had to be negotiated concerning that and my nephew said he would be responsible for making sure I didn't end up a prostitute but I had to accept their relationship. At one point though part of doing that meant Roxy and I had to be together but I had to spend an equal amount of time at the retreatism do dad or my nephew would have dropped his end of things. The thing was that the working environment or trying to work was putting me into contact with people who would do worse things than prostitution to me and they had to get me another kind of income before that got too bad, but using certain means to achieve a goal if those means are supposed to be excluded has to be assessed consequences even if the consequences are also worked into the process.
But Roxy has other aspects of her personality than her primary relationship with me so far. The problem was that my nephew didn't feel that we could have one of those other relationships unless I had one of those other relationships with him first. Roxy was upset because "no one ever completes his process" but no one ever met her standard either. In fact she is the more exacting or strict one, and one reason a lot of people don't meet my nephews conditions is because he doesn't provide his own structure though he makes suggestions about where to get structural support if you need it, which nobody follows. But I did complete his process or are within a few days of doing so. And I've been working on meeting her standard overlapping with this.
