Your grandma and I are in a lot of pain all the time. Mainly its because of various childhood incidents involving pretty much total death and repeated injuries as adults. Though there is no pain involved in most forms of surgery, especially the extreme stuff, the recovery from surgery leads to a lot of pain, and there is a lot of stuff that can be done without putting someone under and we tend to avoid use of partial and topical anestesia. Before we married young or seemingly young, we had been through more pain than most people go through in several lives and to manage that pain we had to alter the structures of our brains. Western science has learned that the pain and pleasure centers of the brain are next to eachother and often get transposed, and that if the pain center is subjugated to the pleasure center in pain management the only way to access the pleasure center is through the things that normally cause pain, except for food pleasure, which must travel on another path or be a different feeling altogeather, which may be why our methods deliberately make use of that too (kissing and things like that, seriously some cultures dont kiss, while ours iconifies it).
Now, you know that we cant leave you to your own divices without finding you in serious trouble, some of that trouble becoming our trouble, so we have to bring you into the ways that we know work for our family. We are experimenting with mellower means while the opportuntity persists, but if all should go awry, all is not lost, we just have to give you more jobs that lead to more serious injuries and fix them till the transformation takes hold. We are going to achieve that transformation no matter what, because you need to have your pain rewired so when you are attacked you dont respond as expected and when your attacker is upset, they cant figure out quickly enough how to make you uncomforatable enough to lose your edge.
