Dad and Mom did have children together before me. But few survived to be born and most of those didn't live very long. Very few people are qualified for that kind of status because the children of Dad and Mom together outrank both of them as they come from a better birth than either of them. So Dad had children with other women and Mom had children with other men and these children usually outranked the people Dad and Mom had them with but they were lower than Dad and Mom. But the people that you normally see and know anything about are the people who are the rank of Dad and Mom or lower. The higher ranked people don't do many of the things you have associated as universals of our culture.
So, when I am married to Mom she will still be Kenpo, and as such there are many people of a rank to interact with her, to come to see her, and I will still seem to most people as very difficult to define and there won't be many people who will meet with me.
I used to do a practice for the purpose of explaining something to the group that claims to represent all of us, including the ones of us they claim don't exist. But they trusted a group of people to tell them what's what and they would do things like make me smoke crack then tell their honorary leader I smoked crack, then he would say he would never speak to anyone who had smoked crack. So I abandoned the practice and it had little to do with my desires anyway. When I initially abandoned the practice I took on other practices that made things seem to be true to people based on what they believed of us. It made it look to them like I had failed in some way but I was never told this by anyone who could say so. The practice I had been doing would have allowed for a more inclusive and less embarrassing approach to the events of the next few years, but I suppose that many people are always doing practices that will allow them to minimize their own personal embarrassment though these practices are forbidden to people whose time has been managed on the microscopic level from a very young age.
