Only one of my brothers has entered a monogamous tantric relationship. Two have commited monogamous relationships and the rest havent met their match. My sister also isnt in a tantric relationship that we know of. Monogamy is a condition of our support for executive level leadership positions, for exceptional levels of support tantra is required, but for the majority of leadership positions, it isnt desired, and you wont meet anyone we would accept if you grew attached to them.
If we had grown up in a house with a nation and school transcripts and community commitments, mafia involvment would not be acceptable, but in a world where you grow up without real papers, where just having an identity means you know some people who can do some stuff that shouldnt have to happen, different choices become neccessary, which lead to other choices.
The point here is to remind people another time, just like you dont make my husband rebuild his wealth from nothing because you know every time he does it he picks up people you like left down, making members of our family live without solid identities leads to powerful commitments to groups maybe you wish were just staffed with some random street punks and rejects.
